I don’t think I understand it, but for some reason, it stuck out to me as something important. 3. Thank you for this ‘love’ly sharing Dawn – always the love flowing from my heart to those who love me and those who may not – the Lord has laid the word BRAVE upon my heart for 2018 – this year is shaping up to be one of great transformation – I trust that He will bless me with the courage and strength that I need to BRAVE it out. God tells us to love those who hate us. First of all, my word is Love this year. Some relationships can be soul-destroying. Our word for the year (actually two) is Compassion and Forgiveness. ), I’d realize I COULD do more. I pray that I will love them in my heart and also in my words….that I won’t get caught up in saying snarky things behind people’s backs. . At times, no matter how well you treat some people, you’ll still find out that they are behaving with a hateful attitude toward you. I’ve studied the concept of “One Word” for the year. Watch Queue Queue. she was in a relationship at that point of time. I know it’s hard to forget that someone who’s supposed to make you feel safe is the one who hurts you the most. Blessings, Dawn, as you live your way into the beauty of “Serve” in 2018. This is one of the ways we put the power of the gospel on display, for sure. 10. “Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?” ~Abraham Lincoln. Marymargaret, I had an experience like this years ago. - @marycarver. It’s good to be honest; then we know how to pray. Oh yes, truly loving can be challenging. This is something we know but that is easy for someone like me to forget. Dawn, Two years ago, our son married a woman (we feel out of desperation) and they moved 500 miles away. But no doubt there are times I’ve deserved dislike, based on what I’ve done or from my own attitudes. But the amazing thing is that even though the other person didn’t change, the relationship became semi-functional. And thanks, Kim, that I wasn’t alone, in not getting it! Our daughter-in-law isn’t a warm and loving woman but claims to be a Christian (my son is also a Christian). What these findings suggest to me is that this love/hate dynamic is a normal part of close relationships. . You have no idea how much I needed to read your post today!! And THANKING God for that person by name. Thank you for your prayers, Dawn, as well as the reminder of this verse in Exodus. She hates me so much like i killed her mother. Love is a powerful word – it carries much weight. Understand that fighting won’t solve any problems. Yet, this is where me and my family find ourselves. After all, that’s what Jesus did. Sometimes it almost chokes in my throat, but God honors that and gives a sweet peace. Do I need to ask forgiveness and make amends, and if I have experienced prejudice, it is a powerful experience that helps me to seek forgiveness for my own prejudice, to be called up short, and to know how horrible that feels. However our son told us to prepare ourselves. 🙂. Understanding this truth will allow you to accept them as they are and trust in their positive side. Living With Someone Who Hates You. Detach yourself. WOW! With God all things are possible! I have loved this person for over 40 years & they are so consistently hurtful with their words. Praying for God to strengthen you. Community. In the journey of life, there are times when we find ourselves trapped in negative emotions and behavior, and to realize this can be very liberating, allowing you to open your heart and embrace those who don’t treat you as nicely as you deserve to be treated. I bonded with that child like she was my own and she bonded with us as well. I close that email and then I read yours. We asked her for forgiveness if we have hurt her in any way. He asked the Lord to help him love those who hate him. I’m sorry to say that even believers let hate enter the picture when it comes to differing beliefs, healing, spiritual gifts, the Rapture. Thank you for the podcasts and showing how to love our haters. I was sure I had signed a contract with salvation and that my wife was going to be my savior. This is a different but connected topic to loving those who hate us or are consistently unkind, even within the body of Christ. We talked with our daughter in law and tried to express as much love and acceptance as we could. I confess we were not thrilled with our son’s marriage and move but accepted it and for the past two years, have shown our new daughter-in-law nothing but kindness and love. Bev xx. I love this guy but the guy I'm in love with hates me and can't stand me. I love your 2018 word. I don’t think there’s a single adult person alive who has never confronted a hateful person, or who at some point in his or her life hasn’t been hateful toward others. Not merely to tolerate them or even to be capable of ignoring them— and that would be quite a thing because it hurts when you know someone hates you. Lv 5. For her sake and as believers, we need desperately to find peace. This video is unavailable. Pardeep Virdi. Thank you, Michele. It’s a terrible feeling, especially when I feel it’s been uncalled for. Thank you for your words. But, simply because I belong to the Lord, there will be people who hate or dislike me and what I stand for. This site uses cookies to improve your user experience. Great post and a much needed confirmation. I would be naive to think otherwise. This is my 8th year to choose a Word, and it truly influences the course of my year! ironically she is one of the best friends of my best friend. Have I done something to offend? I know I’m called to love this woman, but as you know, it’s very hard. Paul writes so beautifully about love – he, too, was facing people who were against him; there were misunderstandings, they made accusations against him, and yet, he loved. Chiwendu Amadi. 18 réponses. That conversation will happen tonight! It is hard for most of us to think anyone would hate us. Someone who believes … i LOVE this girl at school long story short, she got me charged by the police and now she hates me i want to at least be frinds with her i LOVE her please dont say plenty more fish in the sea cause i dont care shes my first love and hopefully my last i want to spend the rest of my life with her. .  (Matthew 5:44). Pearl raised the point about keeping healthy boundaries, and Jean brings up my thoughts on that – a boundary is sometimes essential, and not only for keeping oneself physically safe. But people love to talk about themselves. Dawn, all I can say is WOW! Living with someone who hates you may not be common, but it does happen, and getting out of the situation can be impossible. 2,506 people follow this. Music mogul endorses Biden, launches new political party. Dems hint at retaliation over Barrett nomination Realize that love is the answer. 4 COMMENTS. “You can not hate someone you first did not love. See more of I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me on Facebook. I can continue to pray for them; I can show them through actions of kindness that I care about them – not that I’m happy with the situation, but that in spite of it, I love them. That said, being nice to someone who is making your life miserable can help break down barriers between the two of you and possibly make the situation better. What a God moment this is. Find shared interests. Blessings, “We were both volunteering at a haunted house and I thought he was someone I knew… hit him (lightly) on the arm from behind… he turned around and punched my arm so hard I had a massive bruise for quite a long time. By fighting against those who hate you, the only thing you that will manage to achieve is to add fuel to the fire, being under the false impression that by acting this way you will calm it. My prayer is that what comes out of my mouth whether in someone’s presence or not will be uplifting and not negative. Keeping to Yourself “Keeping to myself or being quiet. Dawn, being hated by those who do not know Christ is expected … I am never surprised when someone who is not part of the body of Christ speaks against me. Instead, they react to people with hatred because they think that that’s the best way to protect themselves from them, after having gone through many painful, traumatic experiences during the course of their lives, which have left them in a constant psychological state of insecurity. July 19, 2017 at 12:17 AM. I kept thinking about the verse to live at peace with all men insofar as it depends on me—and when I’d want to quit loving this person (just everyday, you know! But I was startled by the minister’s words. I like the idea of a “word” for the year! But most of us don’t know how to deal with hatred, especially when it is directed toward us. Marie, this morning in my Bible study I came across this verse: “The Lord shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.” – Exodus 14:14. I have been reminding myself of the verses that call us to seek peace, to forgive, and to love. Il y a 1 décennie . i met her six months back. ©2020 DaySpring Cards Inc. All Rights Reserved. Nobody can truly love someone else before one first learns to love himself or herself, because in order to share love, you first need to have love — or rather, to be love. She went to prison and is no longer in the picture. So many of us are doing our best to use self control, a fruit of the spirit, and be angry and sin not. My word for 2018 is “Embrace”. Contact I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me on Messenger. See photo. She’s clearly struggling with something from her past and doesn’t want to get close. I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo HAtEs Me. A much needed piece every day. It’s so sad and I desperately want healing in our family. I’m basically a nice person. To love someone who hates you is a truly divine kind of love, the kind that allows you to push past the hurt and see people for themselves, beyond whatever misunderstandings or wrongs have piled up between you. What do I need to change? // @dawnMHSH at @incourage: Dawn Camp is an Atlanta-based writer, photographer, and essential oil slinger currently juggling two life stages: mom to three teens and five adult children, mimi to five adorable grands. The more I know about her, the more my heart goes out to her. I don’t think I understand it, but for some reason, it stuck out to me as something important. Listen up, people, we need to earn more haters. That just goes beyond my comprehension. Lynn, Thank you, Lynn! I do self harm, but i do not suggest you do so. Nobody is perfect, and everyone deserves to live a better, more beautiful and loving life. Some of us even select a Word of the year, a theme that the Lord has laid upon our heart. The preacher’s words may have taken me off guard at the time, but they stuck with me and I’ve pondered them for months. In our community it was a lay person in the church who randomly raped children each Sunday and set such fear in their hearts so as to not disclose anything. She’s the type of person that always wears a smile, but she will cut you to shreds while she’s smiling. 🙂. May God help you fight this fight. Last July she told us to our faces that she thinks we are “toxic”, she wants nothing to do with us and we are not to greet her, speak to her, send a gift or text, etc. When you understand that those who hate you are in fact very sensitive individuals who have passed through emotional fire and have been psychologically burned, the only thing you would like to see is that they relieve themselves of the burden that has accumulated in their psyche, wishing that they find peace with themselves and those around them, and trying to help them whenever possible. Pertinence. Yes, when we think on how Christ loves us in our unlovable state, we realize we don’t get a pass to hate others. Hugs! … and that’s where I am right now. Hatred, as we all recognize, can be harmful both to ourselves and others. It can be difficult to talk to your crush, but even more so to a crush who hates you. The Bible warns us that openly declaring ourselves as Christian guarantees the hatred of some: And ye shall be hated of all men for my name’s sake . Who hate my guts? Good reminder and article. Praying for all to work hard at loving others. My husband and I are right in the midst of trying to love our daughter-in-law who we feel “hates us”! I also love that you are experiencing the magic. 0 0 0. I struggle with wanting to avoid the hurt and the hurtful person altogether. I pray for this journey of healing and that God’s supernatural love would be your source!! Fighting never solved any problems and it never will–in fact, fighting, competition, and the war mentality that is prevalent in the modern world is what has created the majority of problems that we currently experience in the first place, both on an individual and collective level. The only way to truly resolve any kind of relationship issues is through love. A wooden, intellectually-centered faith is just as dangerous as an emotion-centered faith. He is dead now, some thirty years later and the many children are grown and even now living the horrors of PTSD, and struggling as they raise their own families. 'GMA' host uses sexy pic for climate change pitch. Often you might think that they do so because you did something wrong, and you might try to justify their behavior, feeling that you deserve that kind of behavior. Hated. Love always protects; it always trusts, it always hopes, it always perseveres. Create New Account. What hurts me is the though of one of my brothers or sisters in Christ hating me. Watch Queue Queue This was very timely for me and has encouraged me to set aside my hurt and focus on being a blessing. I have experienced this in my life, it not only changes them, but also it changed my own heart! Bev, your words are wise. Thank you for the reminder to love and pray for those who hate us! I think this is a good word for you in this situation: let the Lord fight for you and defend you, and continue to hold your peace and act in love. I have tried new crushes and now I have a new boyfriend but I am still in love with someone else. Going to embrace the truth you’ve shared here this morning. But essentially, he launched an emotional warfare that ended in utter destruction- of us; of the kindness, compassion and respect we initially had; and of the person who he had fallen in love with. I have tried so many things to get over him but nothing ever works. When he thinks about the humiliation she brings upon him, he hates her guts. Debra, Brave is a great word and I hope you find many unexpected ways to embrace it in 2018! We’re believing we can all find healing! Christ died for us.” ” Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are.” Loving those who hate us is very hard and we can’t do it without God. What should I do It definitely doesn’t happen without God. Are there people who hate me? It seems hating your partner in the moment does not mean that you don’t also love them a lot—which is actually a bit of a revelation (and a relief). Instead, set a goal of understanding why this person hates you and work toward being the better person. Reshma Khan Reshma. Love does not rejoice in evil. When she loved me so much she used to tell me im her life and she cannot live without me. or. I’m asking for prayer from all my incourage family. Jan 11, 2018 Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are. I am talking about someone who hates me to the core and wishes I was dead. Neither works by itself. Peal, thank you for your words this morning and your encouragement for Marie! Dawn, Anyway, I’ll have to pray for them more & ask God to work in me to be a better example of Christ’s love. Falling in love with someone who doesn’t love you back will surely help you understand what should be your priorities it will teach you never to put so much effort into someone who doesn’t deserve it, and it will make you understand that loving yourself more than loving anyone else is always a must. It’s time all denominations got on board. She has rejected it all and will say such harsh things but we’ve taken those words with grace and not retaliated. But there comes a point where the other person has chosen the depth of the relationship, and loving can take the form of healthy boundaries, too. 5. I appreciate Pearl, you also briefly mentioning healthy boundaries for this is vitally important in certain situations as well. He holds each one. And as a Christ follower, I cannot afford to block and wreck His life in me. There’s no whining or putting the blame on someone else, no “I’m a decent person so why do people hate me?” And he didn’t ask for help simply to keep himself from hating people who hate him in return, because let’s face it, that’s easy to do. He already hates you, so giving him more of you isn't doing you any favors, right? Anne and I were divorced after five years of marriage, when she admitted to having an affair. Love never fails.”. Dear Sister Who Now Hates Me I love my sister but she feels I've stolen her life. Dawn, would you mind expounding a bit on this sentence? But, trust me, the hardest part is leaving when you want to stay. How can I love even if it hurts so horribly. Hugs and Blessings. The truth, however, is that the hatred that is shown toward you says more about the person who is expressing it than about yourself, and the more you understand this, the more you will be able to emotionally detach yourself from any hateful attacks that you face, which will help you to better deal with the situation you are in. Even if the hatred stems from what we represent instead of who we are. Marie, just prayed you’d be given the strength to keep showing kindness. Thanks again for your wonderful prayer! Terrie, Love is a great word! Then he told us we needed to speak to our daughter-in-law. We don't get to pick our favorite way to love our God. Our son hasn’t intervened so we’ve only had casual contact with our son since then. Cindy, I pray in Jesus name for healing within your family. Showing love & kindness is hard in this situation. Dawn, I appreciate this sobering truth. I want to be genuine in all I say and do–not just put on a facade of good character. Someone who will make every effort to point out my flaws and mistakes. Put yourself in their shoes. I will be here for you if you need help. To be the recipient of hate and bitterness is such an awful feeling. tell me ways she can like me again please thankyou. In reality, you will only make things worse, not only for yourself, but for those who show hatred toward you, thus helping perpetuate a cycle of hatred, which could easily be extended to other people as well. We were shocked and hurt to say the least. However she is open to giving it time and we pray that God will help heal her wounds and any hostility she feels towards us. See more of I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me on Facebook. I wanted her to love me unconditionally, to save me from myself with her adoration. I pray that God will soften her heart. There's a girl in my school who very outwardly, blatantly dislikes me - and not in a love-hate way. God bless and GOD’s LOVE to you! Jesus minister sinners and religious alike, and was mistreated by both, so we are in good company. Pages Other Community I LoVe SoMeOnE wHo hAtEs Me Posts. The kind of love that it takes to love those that hate us like this must indeed be sent from God for in our flesh there lives no such ability without Him who loved us and gave His life for us. Our heads bowed, our eyes closed. Focus on listening, getting to know where they come from so you can become a better friend. Someone who is so arrogant that she will never admit her mistakes. by Dawn Camp Engage in relationships with his best friend. Im so broken hearted with all this and especially how she reacted with me with all the hate and blocked me from everywhere... it really striked me so deep in my heart how she acted with me. I pray you and your husband would have comfort and God’s eyes to see the situation for what it really is – a hurting woman spreading her hurt in the twisted hope of finding healing and love through pushing the hurt away and on to others. God bless you! I have found when I experience these feelings leveled at me, they pull me up short and cause me to examine my own behavior. It was traumatizing to say the least and our only daughter died that same year. To keep things short and simple, I took care of our only granddaughter for four years starting at two months of age after her birth mother tried to murder her. There is not much in a situation like this that I can do, but I can be kind. Forgot account? They are not Christians. Log In. I try so hard to be positive & sweet to this relative but they turn it back on me by being very judgemental. Wow. We were told to "love our God with all our heart, mind, soul and strength." Even the ones who may hate me for who — and Whose — I am. LOL. If a child or young adult, for instance has a sibling, parent, or other family member who seems to hate them, simply leaving is unlikely to be a viable option. Thank you for this! Not Now. For 2018 I’m working on being more positive in my life. or. My word is “Genuine”. I think I will do this too. Feeling negatively towards your partner does not mean that you are doing something wrong or that you are in the wrong relationship. Thank you so much and God bless! Facebook is showing information to help you better understand the purpose of a Page. And yet Jesus calls us to love our enemies: But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you . Forgot account? We are not defined by our demographics or our choices in one area. Without the prayer support of my husband and a few close friends, there’s no way I could’ve continued. I hope someone who feels moved by the Holy Spirit, will further this discussion about Love, forgiveness and healthy boundaries when necessary. Log In. I am a 17 yr old girl. In 2018, I hope to serve and love those around me. It is not self-seeking; it is not easily-angered, it does not keep a record of wrongs. i love someone but he hates me what do i do? 40 Comments About See All. “Whenever you are confronted with an opponent, conquer him with love.” ~Mahatma Gandhi, about     newsletter     contact    disclaimer     DMCA / removal notice   privacy policy. You hate them because you loved them, and you lost them.” The details of what happened between us are complicated, as they usually are. Nothing will stand between our prayers for each other and God's ears. EMAIL. When someone hates you it is tempting to bite back. How do you live with someone who hates you? A whole community hit upon yet just one of the many around the world who have experienced the same. Thank you for this! 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